“That is part of the beauty of all literature. You discover that your longings are universal longings, that you’re not lonely and isolated from anyone. You belong.” – F.Scott Fitzgerald
It does not matter if you’re introvert or extrovert. As long as you’re human, having some form of a sense of belonging keeps you alive. As John Donne quotes, no man is an island. We’re generally happier to be a part of something, no matter how little, how small. Which then means, to be part of something, it usually involves more than one person.
It gives us the generally feel good feeling when we can share our interest, our views, our thoughts or see what we’ve been working together reaps success. On the other hand, when we don’t find that sense of belonging anymore in the same group of people that we’ve been dealing with andwe’re alone lost in our own thoughts, the question of where do I belong can be quite frightening.
High chance that we may come across these question at some point in our life.
- Do I belong in this forum/club/social media group?
- Do I belong in this company?
- Do I belong with this group of friends/this friendship?
- Do I belong to him/her/this relationship?
- Do I belong in this family?
- Do I belong here………?
I have asked these questions before and I’ve learned that, to be asking this question honestly to ourselves does not mean we’re weak. Or that we can’t deal with the people or the situation. Asking these questions and hearing the answers will eventually leads us to know what matters to us more. What resonates more to the values that we now carry. What makes more sense to the current us.
And then take the appropriate action which will eventually lead us to feel that sense of belonging again.